Episode Nine

Cancer Guilt

In this episode of the Caregiver’s Guide to Cancer, I share a bit about the guilt that Jose feels for having cancer, for impacting our household, and for not being an equal contributor.  Before I go too far into this, know that I do not feel like he has any reason to feel guilty.  We are a unit… a partnership.  That means we do what’s needed at the time to move our unit forward. 

Let me also say that Jose is no slacker.  He is not lazy.  He has never once said, I can’t… I have cancer.  He does what he can, when he can.  Y’all, that’s all I could ever ask for in a partner.

Now, back to this guilt.  He is the man of the house.  He has been independent his entire life and suddenly, he needs someone to help care for him. That cannot be an easy pill to swallow, for anyone.  

My Top Tip for More Inclusion and Less Guilt

I’m sharing one little technique I use to guide our household.  I make sure that I have activities that Jose can contribute to, even when he’s not feeling his best. This works for us.  I encourage you to find things that work for your loved one and your household. 

Nothing we share will work 100% of the time for 100% of our readers.  Nothing works quite that simply.  Finding a rhythm in your household takes a conscious effort and that’s what we want you to start thinking through as a result of this quick story. 

Jose tells his story on his blog.  If you want more from his perspective, check it out.


Our Gift to You

Our first gift to you is our FREE Gratitude Journal.  Your mindset as a caregiver has a great impact on the overall health of the entire household.  Today, I encourage you to do this one thing for your mental and physical health.

As always, this is meant to be a conversation.  We’d love to hear from you.  Drop us a comment or to reach us directly, email us @ podcast@caregiversguidetocancer.com


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